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|Subject: How to deal with a workaholic partner now? Fri Sep 02, 2011 11:33 am|| |
Kelly mentions that her partner is a workaholic. She says that he lives and breaths through his work and it is the number one priority for him. Kelly mentions that she suffers because he is neglecting her and doesn’t spend much time with her.
Is your partner a workaholic? Does your partner pay attention more to his work than you? How to deal with a workaholic partner?
One of the best things in life is that people work and then become successful. It is always good to create a balance in life. However, if your work becomes the most important aspect in your life, then this would affect your relationship with your partner and your relationship will worsen. I mentioned in my book “How to win your lover’s heart” that when you focus on work more than you focus on your partner, then you are neglecting your mate and this negligence could harm your relationship.
Life is about creating a balance. Make time to your family, friends, health, and God. You have to create a balanced life, otherwise, your relationship will suffer if you focus and spend your time working and ignoring your partner. When you create a balance in your life, that is when you become successful.
John who is retired now, has spent his life focusing on his work and he didn’t spend much time with his wife. After more than 25 years of marriage, their relationship started to deteriorate. She felt that she is not important for him, so she asked for divorce. Now, after he retired from his work, he admits his mistake. Always keep in mind that you have to create a balance in life, don’t become the next John.
To learn how to deal with a workaholic partner, follow the quick guide below:
1. Help your partner Create a balance
Help your partner to create a balance in his life. For example, if your partner work for 10 hours a day, then inform him taking a few minutes during the day to call you and tell you how much he misses you is necessary as it helps to bring both of you closer emotionally.
When your partner goes home, you could even spend as little as 10 minutes together. During that time, the focus should be on each other and nothing else.
2. Give your partner subtle messages
Since workaholics work for too many hours, they often neglect their health and stop exercising. You can begin to give your partner subtle messages that he is neglecting his health and needs to exercise. Inform your partner, you two can take a walk together, go to
the gym together, so you both take care of your health and spend time together at the same time. In other words, you are killing two birds with one stone.
3. Help your partner seek professional help
If your partner seems addicted to his work and the previous steps didn’t help, then it could be time to turn to professional help. Have your mate talk to a coach that will help him understand the causes that makes him want to work most of the time. Professional coaching also helps to change your partner’s thoughts and views about work and could really help return the spark to your relationship.