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|Subject: Why You Should Find Out What She Is Looking For In a Partner Thu Sep 01, 2011 2:12 pm|| |
Women are all different in what they want in a man and in their relationship. The initial want is a guy who is going to treat her well and has good sense of humor and outlook on life. A man who is upbeat and has a zest for life is the most wanted man in terms of dating, but many people forget to look for the qualities they want in a long-term partner and that is a mistake that can cause a lot of future grief.
The very definition of what a relationship should be can vary from woman to woman, and from man to man. Individual definitions are made from life experience and beliefs that they have formed. If you are not on the same wavelength as the woman you are with then you may encounter many problems in your relationship as you go along. In fact, you may be exactly alike in your beliefs, wants, and desires in life but if you do not want the same thing in a partner then you are probably doomed for disaster.
Some woman will want to be independent and on their own. They do not need a partner who is stuck to their hip in every decision and step in life; in fact they do not want a partner like that. Some women will want a partner who is interdependent for every decision in life and who will walk hand in hand with her as life goes forward.
If you find that you are independent and you end up with a woman who is interdependent then you will find that she will face a lot of heartache when you don't give her the closeness that she requires in life, and you will face a lot of anger and resentment for not giving her what she needs from a partner. This is why it is so important to find someone who matches the type of relationship you are looking for.
It's better to find out earlier in a relationship than later. Many breakups and divorces occur because one partner doesn't feel satisfied in the relationship while the other partner feels that everything is just fine. This is a simple difference in expectations from their partners that may not be fixable in the long run. After all, we form our wants and desires from our experiences in life and beliefs formed from those experiences, and when it comes to important things such as relationships it can be hard to change our beliefs to suit someone elses.
How do you find out what she is looking for in a partner? You can outright ask her what she wants, needs, and desires from a relationship. Ask her to be truthful and not say what she thinks you want to hear as many women, and men, will try to conform to what their partner wants to hear instead of what they actually believe.
If you don't want to outright ask her how she feels about what she is looking for in a partner and what she feels is an ideal relationship, then you can instead note how she talks about her parents, friends, or even strangers she sees on the street. The way she talks about her surrounding relationships should give you a huge clue into how she feels relationships should be.
For instance if she talks about how her father was always on the road and her poor mother was at home waiting for him constantly, and you notice a lot of disdain in her voice, then you can deduct she doesn't want a relationship that consists of being separated for any period of time. She does not want to spend her life waiting for her man to come home.
Or if she talks about how annoying her mother and father are because they can not do anything separately then you can be assured that she does not want someone tied to her 24 hours a day.
Take all of what you find out about her and decide for yourself if your future holds a strong and mutually desired relationship or if you are headed towards disaster. Be honest with yourself and her and you will save a lot of heartache and fights in the future.